How do you go from dating to a relationship
To complete the cleansing process, all the dirt has to be cleansed.
To do so you need to first acknowledge and accept your feelings.
It’s compounded by our projections of people, assumptions of situations, expectations of how relationships should be, etc.
If you are still holding on to what could have been, it’s time to release yourself. No more holding yourself back for something that cannot come to pass.
Note from Celes: As this series concludes, I’d like to thank all of you guys for your feedback. I didn’t realize this until I came to the realizations which helped me let go.
This series has generated the most discussion to date and I’m glad my experience has helped you gain insights. Ultimately, there were past baggages to clear and subconscious, erroneous beliefs to untangle before I could really move on. For the longest time, while I thought I had moved on, subconsciously I had not.
Be it bitter or sweet, each time you are clearing baggage, bit by bit. Here are my personal 10 steps to help you in this healing journey. The (a) longer and (b) more intense your relationship is, the more baggage you’d have accumulated.If the relationship was intense, your baggage will probably include hate, grief, anger, fear, shame and other deeper emotions. Whatever the emotion is, open yourself to the emotion fully. They may feel like they have moved on, but what’s really happening is the issue has just become so deeply buried that it doesn’t cause any immediate reaction.This means if you hate the person, feel that hatred. It’s like having a cut that is healed on the surface, but still has impurities underneath the scar.As you connect with these emotions, slowly let them go.