Dating but not boyfriend
He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it.Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.And if your friends and family don't have heart-eyes for him, they might be picking up on red flags that you're too smitten to see. If you're doing mental gymnastics to avoid dropping your boyfriend's name and incurring the wrath of your friends' haterade, that's a huge red flag.Unless they're jealous monsters, they aren't randomly hating on your boyf just to hate on him.And if he swears up and down that every single one of his exes are crazy, it may be a sign you should run. Obviously, he's allowed to think other girls are cute, but you should feel confident enough in your relationship to know that he's only into you. He'll do it again, and even if he doesn't, you deserve someone who would never violate your trust and risk your relationship like that. A healthy relationship involves spending time together, sure, but it also includes time apart.But if he's staring at the girl across the room when you're literally right there and ignoring you, he's not worth your time. If he goes a few hours without returning your text every once in awhile, it's NBD. If he gets salty once, he might just feel left out.You hang out at his house when it's convenient for his schedule and get pizza because it's his favorite food.And while that's totally cool once in awhile, relationships are about give and take.
It's a red flag that he isn't mature enough to really listen to you, and own up to his behavior. Or he might not feel the same way about you — in which case, you don't need him in your life.
If he can't give let Even shy or stoic guys can open up every once in awhile to say nobody makes him laugh like you do, or that your performance in the school play deserved an Oscar, or that you look like a freaking supermodel in that dress.
Your BF doesn't have to be besties with your besties, but he should make a serious effort to get along with the people who are important to you.
But if your BF never wants to go out in public together, whether it's to grab fro yo, see a movie, or hit up a party together instead of just hooking up at home you two hang out, that's a sign he's not ready to commit.
Either he's not listening to you (see #3), he's more interested in hooking up than having a real relationship, he's sketchily trying to hide you, or he's just lazy AF and not putting any effort into the relationship.They know you deserve way better (and wish you knew that, too). If you've been dating for awhile and still haven't met his friends, that's pretty suspicious.In all the time you've spent together, you've heard countless hilarious stories about his friends Andy and Jake. He may not mean to hide you away, but if he makes up sketchy excuses when you tell him you'd love to meet them, it might be a sign something's not right.But if more than a few ring true for you, that might mean that you and your boyfriend aren't meant to be — at least not right now.