Dating a chinese american man
Many Chinese women have shrugged off the spy warning—but say relationships between Chinese women and foreign men are anything but smooth.It is certainly much more common for Chinese women to date foreign men than in my parents’ generation, thanks to Chinese nationals heading overseas for schools and foreigners flocking to Beijing, Shanghai, and other big cities to learn Mandarin and add Chinese experience to their resumes. (NOTE: At the time of writing this, our cat is perfectly happy being the child of a mixed race household. (Bonus Experience Points if “God”, “Jesus” or “Bible” is called upon) 3. But upon moving off the US mainland, first to Hawai’i, then to Japan and Hong Kong, the reaction to our marriage began to evolve. If people commented on our racial differences, the comments often centered on me having married a “white guy.” Even then the comments were mild. While on the US mainland many of the comments were geared more toward the fact that I am Asian, in Hawai’i my husband actually felt a bit more of the scrutiny.Unlike some other young couples, Jean said, they talked a lot about serious topics, including Chinese politics.“I wondered how he thought as a foreigner,” she said, and her ex wanted to know the same.THE FIRST TIME I got a whiff of judgement about my interracial marriage came from a close friend of my family. While some Japanese people looked upon his “fetish” with distaste. On my side, I got yelled at by older people while in a more traditional part of Japan for “denying my cultural identity” as a Japanese woman (I learned quickly how to say “I’m a Chinese person” — it didn’t always make a difference).This person was of a previous generation (or several previous generations), was living in the American south at the time, and had “what was best” for my husband and me at heart. Upon learning of our engagement, she clicked her tongue and a look like she’d just been told the ice cream she was eating was made out babies, crossed her face. And a couple times I was accused of “marrying a white guy to rebel against my Japanese parents”.
But this isn’t a topic Sally feels comfortable talking about.“Honestly, I fell for you the first time I saw you,” the guy confesses, and the two soon begin a relationship.But the romance turns dark when she learns David is, in fact, a foreign agent who ruthlessly uses Li to obtain government documents.The real “danger” of love between a Chinese woman and a foreign man is that it doesn’t ultimately go anywhere, the women I talked to said.
The opposing political views of May Xu, 24, who works for a Spanish head hunting firm in Shanghai, and her Spanish ex-boyfriend, who she met at work, were reflected in just one sentence.During a date, he declared “Mao is a dictator,” Xu recalled.It was interesting at first for Xu to learn about Spanish culture from her ex-boyfriend, she said, especially after feeling she had nothing to talk about with Chinese guys in her age because “everything is familiar.” But the remark about China’s former leader, Mao Zedong, was too alien, she said. She’s not happy about the word “dictator,” because that makes Mao the equivalent to Adolf Hitler or Joseph Stalin, Xu explained.The latest data, from a 2010 population census, shows more than 600,000 foreigners dwell in China, and 56% of them are male.