Cancer survivor dating websites

17-Jul-2020 11:10

With that being said, let’s discuss why cancer survivors should be open to dating using my own foray into the dating world as an example.

I can’t lie, when I was first diagnosed I was in a committed and secure relationship with my then boyfriend and future husband, who was my rock, my strength and my self-esteem.

This new passion of mine, and the fact that me not having an actual right abdominal wall, made my pre-cancer dream of having more children, disappear which was the final nail in the coffin of my marriage. Feel complete and utter despair, hopelessness and loneliness? The more I thought about it, the more I convinced myself that I love me and my stitched together body.

(I was blessed to have one young but that’s a whole other future blog.) So what do you do when you find yourself single again after having survived stage IV colon cancer? This body of mine was a testament to everything I have been through and survived.

After my cancer journey was over, I waited three years to get back in the game, because I was taking Tamoxifen and it had several side effects that wouldn’t work well with dating.

A woman would think I was insane, an idiot, or an insane idiot. In September I decided to get off Tamoxifen, so I could finally reclaim my life.

All those years of on and off chemo cocktails, countless procedures and surgeries, 10 to be exact, have left my body majorly battled scarred and crooked, but it was okay because I was married and would never have to worry about dating again, or so I thought.

For me the change was profound, I no longer cared about the same things I did when I married my husband, my life was all about giving back to cancer and being the voice for the young adult colon cancer survivors, who were pretty much ignored back then. This thought literally changed my whole outlook on dating.No not all dates are going to go well, I have had some doozies, but it’s worth it when you find yourself on an amazing date that leads to your very own romantic adventure!Vanessa is a passionate stage IV survivor and longtime volunteer and buddy for Colon Cancer Alliance. But that doesn’t work well, because my dates always ask what I do for a living. Women on these sites are more interested in the foundation that I created, than in me. I mean if it looks weird to me, it must look really weird to a woman looking at me. I can get a 3-D tattoo of a nipple, but that would still look weird. This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.